On the way back to St. Louis from San Diego, Justin and I decided to make some pit stops along the way to make the journey a little more fun. Our first day was in Big Bear, CA where we rented a little Getaway cabin for the night. Our cabin’s name was Ginger, named after a grandparent of the staff (too cute).
We went on a hike, practiced our longboard skills on the trail, and enjoyed the breath of fresh air without needing our phones. It was so peaceful. Here are my favorite shots from the Getaway.
The next day we stopped in Moab, Utah. The view was absolutely incredible, but we had to hit the road as soon as we woke up. My other favorite stop was in Dillon, Colorado, right outside of Denver. When we got there, I did a quick couples photoshoot for some friends at a gorgeous lookout spot, and then of course made Justin pose with me for some too.
The last day was a boring one, because we spent it driving through Kansas. Luckily, we made it home last night safe and sound. I had so much fun road tripping for a long weekend, and I’m already plotting the next one.
Today I made a post on Instagram about white privilege. Reading, listening to podcasts, and learning more has been really helpful for me in understanding some of the racial issues in America, and I wanted to share my post with you, along with some resources.
The definition of privilege is “a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group.” Identities that can afford an individual privilege include race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, socioeconomic status, country of origin, language, and ability. Peggy McIntosh wrote an article in 1988 explaining the daily effects of white privilege, and it’s been eye opening for me to read. Her point is that racism and inequality aren’t just found in individual acts of meanness. It’s an invisible knapsack of special provisions, maps, and tools that we have access to. She created a list of 50 conditions that she can count on as a white person that other people cannot. I pulled a few that I think resonate most with me, and maybe they will with you too.
—> I can go shopping alone most of the time, pretty well assured that I will not be followed or harassed.
—> I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented.
—> I can be pretty sure of having my voice heard in a group in which I am the only member of my race.
—> I do not have to educate my children to be aware of systemic racism for their own daily physical protection.
—> I am never asked to speak for all the people of my racial group.
—> I can be pretty sure that if I ask to talk to the “person in charge” I will be facing a person of my race.
—> I can be pretty sure that an argument with a colleague will not jeopardize my chances for advancement.
—> I can choose to ignore developments in minority writing and activist programs.
—> I can think over many options, social, political, imaginative or professional, without asking whether a person of my race would be accepted or allowed to do what I want to do.
—> I can be sure that if I need legal or medical help, my race will not work against me.
—> I can choose bandages in flesh color and have them match my skin tone.
—> I will feel welcome and normal in the usual walks of public life, institutional and social.
My challenge to you is to spend some time thinking about these and any other privileges you might be afforded because of your race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, socioeconomic status, country of origin, language, or ability, and have a conversation with a friend or colleague about it.